During the female-only parties, she explains the physiological differences between men and women and what can help a couple become more in sync in the

During the female-only parties, she explains the physiological differences between men and women and what can help a couple become more in sync in the bedroom.
"Once you come to a couple of these parties, you realize how much I'm trying to promote healthy relationships, to provide education and do it in a fun, classy way," Jones said. "It's not like we're asking them to come to a naughty video store."
Her approach is part of what makes Jones so popular - and successful.Although she has sponsored two other saleswomen in Idaho Falls, there's enough demand for parties that she spends two weekends a month - half her work days - here.Jones started with the goal of making $500 a month so she could stay home with her children. Today her husband stays home while she brings home $112,000 a year."People pay money just to laugh," she said. "We will pay $40 to $50 to see a good comedian, and we leave without a little bag of goodies and without education."After less than three years with Slumber Parties, Jones is the company's top saleswoman, out-selling the other 10,000 reps. In 2005, she amassed $180,000 in retail sales, a new record for the 13-year-old company.Denise first attended a Slumber Party when her sister hosted one a few years ago.Since then, she's attended five parties and has hosted one of her own. Compared to lingerie stores and ordering on the Internet, shopping with Jones puts her at ease."Local shops have the lingerie, but they just don't have quite as much of the novelties," Denise said. "I like to see how it's actually going to work, and with the Internet, there's a chance it could break during shipping. Jeanie guarantees her products."Jones knows her stuff, Denise said, and while Jones shares plenty of statistics, her presentation of the products makes everyone giggle, if not guffaw outright.Jones handles orders privately so women can ask more detailed questions,and brings enough inventory to fill orders, which eliminates unexpected surprises in the mail."I feel comfortable with Jeanie because she doesn't pressure you into buying her products, and she's really easy going and laid back," Denise said. "Jeanie makes it more fun."The popularity of Jones' products doesn't surprise Janet Allen of Creekside Counseling in Idaho Falls. Employees face burnout when there's nothing new to learn at work, she said, and the same is true for romantic relationships."We know that when relationships become static, boring or unstimulating, then they start to deteriorate," Allen said. "Then distance ensues... You have to keep it interesting, or you're probably not going to keep it."
It's also no surprise to Allen that many of the women shopping with Jones are married."Statistically we know that the people who have the best sex - in terms of quality and frequency - are in an emotionally connected, highly committed marriage relationship," Allen said. "Statistics strongly support that sex is best within a marriage."For some customers, bedroom "toys" cut down the time it takes for partners to be successfully intimate."When you have kids, you feel like you have to hurry because they're going to wake up, or you have to hurry because you're going to get interrupted, or because you're tired and you have to get up in the morning," said Amanda, married for seven years and the mother of three children. "(With these products) You don't feel rushed, because this speeds things up, and it can be more intense than an orgasm with just your partner.Information empowers people to make quality decisions, Allen said, and sex is one of the ways adults play in their relationship.Allen's caveat: You're in charge of your choices, and regardless of how zealous or enthusiastic a salesperson is, don't engage in behavior that puts you outside your values and beliefs."But that's not to say that you shouldn't try something new or even a little awkward, because that's our growth edge," Allen said.
Sophie, married for 20 years and the mother of three teenaged boys, invested in some flavored oils and fluffy cream to enhance her relationship with her husband.She's said the products have made their romantic encounters even more enjoyable for both of them.The money's nice, but Jones feels her ability to connect with women is the real payoff."I get cards, phone calls, e-mails: 'You saved my marriage,'" she said. "All of us have questions, and who do you ask? ... That's why they have so much fun. They say, 'I thought it was just me.'"

Finding people on the net can be an isolating/sole activity

There was a time when finding a date, partner, lover or playmate online was frowned upon. It was for people who couldn’t get a date any other way! Oh how things have changed…not only can you sign up to a site listing thousands of singles who match your height, size, location and taste in food…now you can choose your sex partners too.Finding people on the net can be an isolating/sole activity but, once you’ve taken that deep breath and shrugged off the stigma attached to female sexual freedom, life can get very interesting!
Take the fetish scene; it’s out there, sites for introduction or information, clubs for fun, support or full on parties, yearly events and awards, shops for all those outfits and toys to assist in your wildest fantasies. Whether you’re into sexy undies, the power of domination or having your feet licked…it’s yours for the taking. It’s time to turn your man over and tell him how u like it…or come out to the world and grab the girl with the dog collar and lead her straight to your bedroom, love nest or dungeon!So, where do you start what’s the ethics, is it safe, what’s the terminology?
Start at the beginning.
What are you looking for?
Straight sex A specific fetish Are you curious about them all Do you want information before deciding Do you want to meet in the flesh or chat online?
Be clear in your own head what you want, don’t go at someone else’s pace, set your own and only go as far and as fast as you want to.
Once you’ve found a site that interests you take advantage of the free trial offers. Use this time to send as many mails to other members as you can, the more you mail out the more will come back. Chat with lots of people not just the one person. And remember it’s cool for women to make the first contact too!
Fill out your personal details. This is your opportunity to sell yourself. Tell people who you are, what you like, what you’re looking for. If it’s your first time or if you’re new to the scene just say so. The members are into an alternative lifestyle; they’re not an alien life form. And above all, be honest!

Put a picture on your profile. Make sure it’s of you and only you! Not your favourite pet or you and your ex! And make sure it’s an up to date one…nothing worse than when you get to meet someone and they look about 10 years older than the picture you’ve been dreaming over!

Don’t feel obliged to answer every contact. Just because it’s a site about sex doesn’t mean anyone can say anything to you and you have to accept it. No matter what type of site or relationship the overriding word is ‘consensual’. If you’re not interested then don’t reply. You wouldn’t accept a drink, dance or advance from just anyone in a club and the same applies to introduction sites.If there’s something on a persons profile that you don’t understand take a deep breath and ask then or look in the sites glossary. Or if you’re just too shy for that do a search on the Internet!
Use the safety of the site to get to know the people you come in contact with before meeting them in person. If you do agree to meet in person meet in a public place and drive yourself.
Is it a scam I hear you ask? No, there are thousands of people out there looking to make new friends, find romance, find a sex partner that match their hopes, dreams and fantasies and it costs less per month than one night out on the town. And lets be honest, how often will you come across people from around the world that you can talk openly to from the moment you meet them about your inner most fantasies? Do remember though that online dating is a tool to help with what you are looking for but without your input it would be like sitting in the toilets at a party!
It doesn’t matter what your age, size, hair colour or interests are. There are sites on the Internet to meet your need and budget. Whether it’s music, fetish, sport, health or religion, there’s a site for you. So what are you waiting for, get on there and have some fun.
Helen Smith www.fetish-mate.com
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Before we can experience sensuality, touch and pleasure with a lover, it is important that every woman learns to explore her body

Before we can experience sensuality, touch and pleasure with a lover, it is important that every woman learns to explore her body, to pleasure it, and to appreciate it.Yes ladies – you can’t always blame your lover for your failure to launch. Take a good look at your sensual world, your relationship with yourself, your sensuality and erotic power.Begin by asking yourself a few questions:

1. Have you experienced female self pleasuring? Do you have reservations?

2. Are you aware of the sensual sensations of your body?

3. Are you aware of the emotional feelings associated with your body? Your sexuality? Sexual power?

4. Do you know what words, actions, touches that give your more pleasure?

5. Do you know what things relax you, your mind and body? Is it food, music, candles, the feelings of silk on your soft skin?

So how do you develop your ‘female self pleasuring’ potentional?

Well when you have answered these questions, explored yourself, always keep in mind that your are a powerful sexual goddess and you deserve to be treated with respect, love, appreciation, pleasure and admiration – by yourself as well as your lover.

Nurture your erotic relationship with yourself with female self pleasuring.

1. Set the mood, create the scene. From the answers to the questions, prepare your most ideal environment, i.e. one which helps you to relax, enhance your senses and sensuality.

Think music, lighting, fragrance, cushions, oils, toys, clothing – or lack of!

2. Relax mind, body and soul. Have a slow luxurious soak, or give yourself a massage.

3. Slowly begin touching your self (leaving the genitals until the end). Stroke, caress, and admire your body – your hands, legs, stomach.

Some women feel uncomfortable admiring themselves and their bodies. If any such feels come up just note them and let them go. Don’t stop and analyse, just continue touching and pleasuring your body, and make sure your last thought or feeling is a positive one.

4. Feel the energy begin to flow around the body. Feel your skin start to tingle, your breathing deepen.

5. Now start to stroke and caress your breasts, touching them slowly in admiration. Stroke your nipples, feel the skin on the breasts tingle and the energy flow around them.

6. After at least 20minutes of body sensual touching, you can proceed to the intimate areas. Lightly caress your yoni (the tantric word for Vagina which means sacred space), clit, lips.

And any area you wish to explore!

If you experience waves of intense pleasure and emotion (negative or positive) simply note them, breathe slowly and deeply and let these feelings go. Always end on a positive thought and feeling. Continue with your female self pleasuring.

7. Explore your inner erotic beauty by inserting a finger slowly into your yoni – just to within an inch or two initially. Note the physical and sensual sensations – the heat, moisture, and textures. Insert another finger if you’re comfortable. Explore your yoni, g-spot, vary your touch, and drape a lovely silk scarf over the area. Tease your clitoris, starting at the base of the clit and moving towards the head.

(If indulging in intimate massage - make sure you use organic, cold-presses virgin oils such as almond, olive and sesame. Do not use essential oils in any form – on or near the genitals).

8. Allow the powerful erotic and sensual sensations to build and flow in waves throughout the body. Bring yourself close to climax, then slow down breathe deeply and start again. Do this a number of times to allow you to be in a state of arousal and pleasure for good amount of time.

Enjoy the sensations until you can’t take it anymore. Claim and enjoy your female sexual power – the greatest power on the planet!

it wasn’t the men who were degrading the women: the women were degrading themselves

“…it wasn’t the men who were degrading the women: the women were degrading themselves. The Pussycat Dolls took the stage, gyrating around and swinging on poles as they sang about how they wanted guys to throw themselves on them. Nelly Furtado wore a completely see-through dress as she performed her new single. There were numerous other examples of women putting themselves on a display of sexuality throughout the show. In the ’60s and ’70s, women were all about independence and making sure that they were not simply seen as sex toys. It almost seems now like our generation’s young women want men to see them in a sexual light. Girls post promiscuous photos of themselves on social networking sites like Facebook and MySpace, desiring for men to leave comments and look through their profiles. Is it because women are desperate for attention?…”

He expects me to shower him with good sex and attention even though he doesn’t give it to me,

He expects me to shower him with good sex and attention even though he doesn’t give it to me,He is horrible in bed; he won’t participate in any sexual games or fantasy things with me so I am always bored. He tells me I lay there and he needs something more but I am the one who comes up with all this cool stuff to do and he refuses to do it.No matter what I say and do I am wrong about it. If he is wrong he won’t admit to it,WE cant do anything that’s free like lay in the grass and he together cause he wont talk to me and if he does its about business so every thing we do has to be about moneyHe agrees with every thing that I say.I don’t trust him; he just acts like he just doesn’t give a shit,Takes care of me financially but not emotionally. Gives the wrong things.We don’t have the same friends. He wont bring his friends around me keeps them far far away. He doesn’t hang with any friends, and he is strange. I feel lonely a lot. Don’t know what to do .what will happen if I let him go. I want things to be different he wont listen to me and change. I tell him we need to have friends hang out with them do things he wont bring his friends around me and he keeps me far away from everyone.He doesn’t like it if his friends and family pay attention to me he wants all the attention h e is afraid they are going to like me better or something. He thinks that they are going to like me and turn on him it’s like a fight.He tries to shub me in a sardine can and lower myself esteem by doing all of these things.If were on a small vacation like going to see family he wont stop so I can smell the flowers and take pictures and things.

He wont use sex toys on me or even make love to my body he rushes threw sex and its over in 10 to 15 minutes if that.

When we make love, he has sex with me in the same position all the time. He doesn’t really connect with me and doesn’t exactly really want to.I am the giver and lover he isn’t. He is the taker.
If I want to talk about my friends or family or anything really he just won’t talk.
If I want to talk to him about problems he refuses to listen an d if he does listen he will just tell me its all in my head and that hear we go again, He is rude in our house. If I am not ready for bed and he is, he turns off the lights while I am walking around the house. He turns off the TV when I am watching it, if we fight about it he says you said you were going up stairs to sleep. He manipulates me, I said to him. I said I was going up to bed but I was still watching the TV. He always turns the lights off on me when I am walking around the house. I have to walk in the dark.When I am sick, he won’t take care of me, when he is sick I take care of him. Get is median and things,He wont use sex toys on me or even make love to my body he rushes threw sex and its over in 10 to 15 minutes if that.
He accuses me of his STD that he caught he tells me I gave it to him and it makes me cry. He gave it to me and didn’t tell me he had it until 2 years later.He sides with people that are being mean to me;

woman's main sex organ is her brain.

Ahh..sex drive. I do not know ANY women who have a higher sex drive than their male partners, and all of the couples I know--and I mean ALL--are experiencing the same thing. You are having a LOT of sex compared to most of the women I know (with and without kids), who are lucky if they have it once or twice a MONTH. I don't know what the answer is. People are tired, exhausted from energy spent on work and/or kids, stressed about the economy, traffic, you name it. Sex is just not as exciting after years of being with the same person, no matter how much you love them or are attracted to them. It just gets a little more mundane, in my humble opinion. Would love to hear from others on this, but this really is the most common complaint I have heard between married or long term hetero partners.
Almost Sexless in SF....I have some long held beliefs on this topic: First of all, I believe a woman's main sex organ is her brain. Unless there is some mystery left in the relationship, it is challenging to muster up any kind of drive for sex. I applaud you for mustering enough drive to have sex with your husband twice a week! I think that marital relationships have a natural course. The desire for sex naturally wanes when the routine of family life takes over. Most people have to really work at it to maintain a semblance of mystery which stirs passion-- whether it's fantasy, toys, porn, alcohol, oysters, chocolate, etc.
As for your husband's drive, I would suggest he satisfy himself on the ''days'' that you aren't in the mood. Obligatory sex is not fun for either party. Though, I've heard that it is good for a marriage. I, personally have a really hard time going along with it for my partner's sake. Others don't. It's an individual thing.
Tell your partner that the reason there was more passion when you were first dating, is that there was still mystery! You each put each other on a pedestal and were still discovering things about each other. This creates an element of surprise which fuels passion. Why does the story go that the girl always is attracted to the bad boy? Because it's the taboo factor. We want what we shouldn't have. Hence, there is attraction.You are being too hard on yourself - yes it's possible that you don't desire him ''every day''. And, yes, you can have beliefs of how a mother and wife are different because they are! You have lots of other emotional ties in your life. It is different than it was when it was just you and he.
This is a female point of view.