5 Tips To Restore A Marriage After Infidelity

5 Tips To Restore A Marriage After Infidelity: "You often see a familiar scene every summer along famous beaches everywhere: two children are together to build a magnificent sand castle, but then within some minutes it is destroyed for any reason. This is an appropriate metaphor for marital infidelity, when an infidelity is disclosed, the trust of the marriage can be ruined at all in just minutes. This article gives you 5 techniques for restoring a marriage after an infidelity.

Substitute a few key elements of this scene and it becomes an accurate description of how a married person feels when they find out their spouse has cheated on them. A single infidelity - whether it be a one-night stand, a brief affair, or a long-term infidelity - can instantaneously decimate the trust in a marriage the moment it all comes to light.

At that point, the only real question becomes: can the decimated marriage ever recover the love and trust that once existed there?

If you are interested in putting a marriage back together after an infidelity, check out these 5 tips:"

Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher: Anniversary Lovin' | Entertainment/Music | Peacefmonline.com

Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher: Anniversary Lovin' | Entertainment/Music | Peacefmonline.com: "They’ve weathered some pretty serious allegations of infidelity, and Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher are all about proving that their marriage is fireproof.

The “Ghost” actress and her “Butterfly Effect” hubby tweeted a picture of themselves snuggling in bed on their fifth wedding anniversary. Demi wrote, “Thank you for all the anniversary wishes. Enjoying a day lounging around watching ‘Breaking Bad.’ Great show!”"

David Beckham Doesn’t Take Kindly To Allegations Of Infidelity - TV.com

David Beckham Doesn’t Take Kindly To Allegations Of Infidelity - TV.com: "Yesterday we learned that soccer superstar David Beckham made his way down to the tropical island nation of Trinidad & Tobago in an attempt to woo the FIFA Executive Committee in an effort to convince them to allow England to be the host nation for the 2018 World Cup Soccer Tournament … but before I update y'all on that front, there is a newly surfaced video of Becks that I want to share. As you may recall, last week new allegations surfaced that claim David Beckham carried on an extramarital affair with a prostitute back in 2007 … allegations which have angered Les Beckhams so much that they are planning to sue In Touch Weekly magazine, the publication which published the story. Before Becks made his way to Trinidad, he played a game for the LA Galaxy here in SoCal and was heckled by a 'fan' with a video camera about the infidelitous allegation:

Becks has successfully managed to avoid being baited by the taunts but clearly was ready to show his anger when this fool with the video camera decided to heckle him after the most recent Galaxy game. After the jump, check out the video in full and see what Becks's angry face looks like — and check out new photos of Becks and his eldest son Brooklyn Joseph enjoying their time together in Trinidad …"

Hookers behind George Lopez’s divorce? « earsucker

Hookers behind George Lopez’s divorce? « earsucker: "George Lopez and his wife Ann had officially decided to get divorced. Now, we’re hearing that the reasoning behind the divorce has a lot to do with his hooker scandal from earlier this year.
The National Enquirer reports:
“I had sex with George Lopez for money, and so did a friend of mine,” a professional escort who uses the name Tiffany told The ENQUIRER in our May 31, 2010 issue.
The ENQUIRER’s bombshell report of Lopez’s infidelity came as a huge shock because his wife of 17 years, Ann, saved George’s life in 2005 when she donated a kidney to him. But now it appears that Ann, a TV producer, has had enough."

Deepika Padukone alleges: Did Ranbir cheat on her by bedding Katrina Kaif? | Newspost Online

Deepika Padukone alleges: Did Ranbir cheat on her by bedding Katrina Kaif? | Newspost Online: "Don’t know if Katrina Kaif features in this story or not (as say the rumours) but Deepika Padukone, surely, has been nurturing some bitterness about ex flame Ranbir Kapoor. In fact, Deepika has finally spoken candidly on relationships and her take on infidelity.
She says that sex is not merely about physical pleasure. When she is in a relationship, she gets attached emotionally and sentimentally. She maintains that she never cheats or strays. However, she spews fire on her ex boyfriend and without naming anyone rues, “The first time he cheated on me, I thought there was something wrong with me or the relationship, but when someone makes a habit of it, you know the problem lies with him. Yet I was foolish enough to give him a second chance because he begged and pleaded, despite the fact that everyone around me said he was still straying. I guess I really wanted to believe in him. Then I actually caught him red-handed. It took me a while to get out.”"

Killer husbands lose 'cheating wife' defence... but abused wives could escape murder charge | Mail Online

Killer husbands lose 'cheating wife' defence... but abused wives could escape murder charge | Mail Online: "Husbands who kill cheating wives in ‘crimes of passion’ are to lose the defence of provocation after all.
The move, described as ‘obnoxious’ by judges, means husbands will no longer be able to claim that infidelity was the spur for their actions and will face a charge of murder, rather than manslaughter.
It had been thought that the change in the law – introduced by the last Labour Government and opposed by the Tories – would not happen after it was thrown out by the House of Lords.
But it has emerged that the measure was quietly reinstated as a new clause in a Bill which has passed into law.
At the same time, another controversial change will allow women who kill abusive partners in cold blood to escape a murder conviction if they prove they feared more violence."

David Beckham Confronts Fan Commenting on Prostitute Story – Indyposted

David Beckham Confronts Fan Commenting on Prostitute Story – Indyposted: "David Beckham
got angry after a Galaxy game on Friday night when a fan decided to be stupid and make comments about Beckham’s infidelity with an escort back in 2007.
After the soccer fan yelled, “Stop with the prostitutes!” David turned around and walked right up to him and saying, “Say it to me face!”
Nothing happened during the altercation, but you can tell Beckham was pissed off over those comments."

Los Gatos trial testimony focuses on web searches done on suspect's laptop - San Jose Mercury News

Los Gatos trial testimony focuses on web searches done on suspect's laptop - San Jose Mercury News: "One night, it appeared the lovelorn Paul Garcia was searching the Internet for 'private investigators San Jose' and 'cheating spouses infidelity,' and three days later he was looking up 'How to make a Gemini woman fall in love.'
Whether Garcia, who owned a Los Gatos bar and restaurant, was so obsessed with bartender and 'Gemini' Tessa Donnelly that he arranged the killing of the other man she was seeing, or whether he was just confused about her and had nothing to do with it, will be up to the jury to decide.
But on Monday, in the fifth week of Garcia's love-triangle, murder-for-hire trial, prosecutor Jeff Rosen hoped that the testimony he presented from a computer analyst and a Los Gatos detective who analyzed Garcia's laptop shows Garcia masterminded the killing of his romantic rival, Mark Achilli. Garcia purchased Mountain Charley's Saloon and the 180 Restaurant and Bar in September 2007, seven months before Achilli was killed.
San Jose Police Sgt. Alan Lee, who works for the Silicon Valley Regional Computer Forensic Lab, testified Monday that he couldn't say whether Garcia was actually the person doing the searches on that Jan. 7, 2008 night but that the searches came from Garcia's personal, password-protected account. A witness last week testified he was with Garcia in early January -- two months before the killing -- when he saw Garcia look up private investigators, cheating spouses and GPS tracking devices on the Internet."

Nouse.co.uk » The Ryder Cup could reignite Tiger Woods’ career

Nouse.co.uk » The Ryder Cup could reignite Tiger Woods’ career: "Tiger Woods is unlikely to ever recover fully from the exposure of his misdemeanours away from the course and the infidelity towards his now ex-wife Elin Nordegren – that is one weight he will carry until he retreats from the public eye entirely. With his private dealings now very much public, the focus on Woods has turned away from what put him in the the public eye in the first place – being the greatest golfer of his generation and the reason why so many golfers are now millionaires – just ask Jim Furyk who recently won £7 million at the Tour Championship. For all the coverage of Woods in the past months, very little of it has been about his golfing exploits, but then again there hasn’t been that much to write home about – he hasn’t won a tournament in nearly a year and his recent displays have been average at best."

Abusive Relationship Signs – Winning, Whining аחԁ Losing іח Abusive Relationships

Abusive Relationship Signs – Winning, Whining аחԁ Losing іח Abusive Relationships

“Wһеח уου pressure mе, уου lose mе. Aחԁ instead уου ɡеt yourself аחԁ tһе illusion tһаt уου won mе over.” Looks Ɩіkе a familiar abusive relationship sign, сοrrесt?

People іח abusive relationships spend аח inordinate amount οf time іח a tug-οf-war dance. Hе іѕ insisting οח һеr seeing, doing οr being life аѕ һе wаחtѕ, аחԁ ѕһе struggles within herself tο hold һеr οwח οr cave іח.

Each round οf tһіѕ ƖіttƖе dance brings һеr farther frοm herself аחԁ һіm farther frοm һеr, аѕ well. Aחԁ tһе real net effect, over time, іѕ tһаt ѕһе steps back bit-bу-bit until tһе day comes wһеח ѕһе mау bе tһеrе іח space аחԁ time, bυt һаѕ left іח еνеrу οtһеr way.

Winning іח Abusive Relationships

It’s аѕ though һе mυѕt win. Hіѕ urge tο ɡеt һіѕ way іѕ more іmрοrtаחt tһаח wһаt һе wins through аחу individual conquest. Fοr example, Ɩеt’s ѕау wе һаνе a couple іח wһісһ ѕһе wishes tο ԁο a family chore іח һеr way. Tһіѕ routine task mау bе аѕ small аѕ taking inventory οf household items fοr maintenance.

Now іt һаѕ always bееח һеr job tο perform tһіѕ mundane job, bυt fοr ѕοmе reason іt becomes іmрοrtаחt fοr һіm tο take over. Sο, һе steps іח аחԁ takes over. Sһе knows wһеח ѕһе requests tһаt һе Ɩеt һеr ԁο tһіѕ task аѕ ѕһе іѕ accustomed tһаt һе wіƖƖ hold tighter аחԁ tighter tο һіѕ insisting οח һеr letting һіm take charge.

At חο time ԁοеѕ ѕһе חοr һе voice tһеіr innermost attachment tο tһе “activity” (іח qυеѕtіοח) being tһеіr way. All wе see аחԁ all tһеу know іѕ tһе οtһеr іѕ attempting tο interfere wіtһ tһеіr “winning.”



Tһе tug-οf-war саח ɡο οח ad-nauseam…until ѕһе caves іח. Wһаt һе mау חοt bе aware οf іѕ іח һіѕ “win,” һе һаѕ lost contact wіtһ һіѕ partner. Aחԁ ѕһе remains numb іח һеr skin аחԁ longing tο withdraw.

Bесаυѕе It’s Imрοrtаחt tο Yου

Now, Ɩеt’s rυח tһіѕ same example through superimposing a different dynamic аחԁ look аt tһе net effect οח tһе individuals аחԁ οח tһеіr relationship.

Lеt’s envision tһе “man οf tһе house” taking charge wіtһ respect tο tһіѕ household activity tһаt ѕһе һаѕ done fοr decades. Aחԁ ѕһе objects, letting һіm know tһаt ѕһе prefers tο take care οf tһе chore οח һеr οwח.

If іt becomes clear tο һіm tһаt һеr efforts tο hold һеr οwח аrе indicative οf tһіѕ сһοісе being іmрοrtаחt tο һеr, tһеח tһе door opens fοr things tο play out differently. Iח addition, һе wουƖԁ need tο find іח himself ѕοmе benefit tο honoring tһаt wһісһ іѕ іmрοrtаחt tο һеr. It mау simply bе bесаυѕе ѕһе іѕ іmрοrtаחt tο һіm.

Now I suppose уου сουƖԁ аѕk wһу ɡο һеr way over һіѕ way. Gοοԁ qυеѕtіοח…though tһе аחѕwеr іѕ less іmрοrtаחt relative tο tһе lesson.

It’s NOT between Yου аחԁ Tһеm Anyway

Mother Teresa ѕаіԁ, “Iח tһе final analysis, іt іѕ between уου аחԁ God. It wаѕ never between уου аחԁ tһеm anyway.”

Sο wһаt’s God һаνе tο ԁο wіtһ tһіѕ interaction tһаt tһе couple іח ουr example аrе having? It һаѕ everything tο ԁο wіtһ іt οח tһе inside, аחԁ חοt much οח tһе outside.

Wһеח уου concede bесаυѕе уου аrе honoring tһе οtһеr person rаtһеr tһаח lying down іח tһе path οf tһе bull, уου remain connected tο уουr respect fοr tһеm. Aחԁ wһеח tһеу yield tο уου іח appreciation fοr tһеіr honoring уου, tһеу tοο remain connected tο tһеіr respect fοr уου (аחԁ tһеіr relationship wіtһ уου). Iח both, tһеrе іѕ аח alignment wіtһ tһе divinity within each person respectively.

Cаח Tһіѕ Respect Bе Learned?

Yes, tһіѕ respect саח bе learned аחԁ honoring οtһеr саח bе cultivated Ɩіkе аחу οtһеr interactional habit. If уου аrе іח аח abusive relationship, аחԁ long tο change things frοm tһе inside out, find a domestic abuse intervention tһаt addresses tһе subtle communication patterns οf battering relationships.

Wһеח уου аחԁ уουr partner look аt уουr spats frοm tһе inside out rаtһеr tһаח tһе outside іח, уου open tһе door tο change. Aחԁ wіtһ practice, tһе changes уου mаkе become חеw life/relationship interaction habits.

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher: Doomed by the Age Gap?

As the tabloids pull out the big guns claiming Ashton Kutcher cheated on Demi Moore, People Magazine published a celebratory photo gallery, "Ashton and Demi: Inside Their Marriage," tied to the couple's fifth anniversary today.


But as more people ask, "Did he or didn't he?" perhaps an equally valid question is whether their union was compromised from the start by the dates on their birth certificates.

The minute Hollywood couples tie the knot, rumor mills start looking for them to untie. May-December unions – especially when the woman is considerably older than her man – are real game changers.

Is the age gap – Moore is reportedly 15 years older than Kutcher – the likely fuel that incites a younger male partner's extramarital flings?

Romanticism is a "natural addiction," it makes us both happy and unhappy.

Romanticism is a "natural addiction," it makes us both happy and unhappy. A break causes a feeling of loss and pain that affects so much that causes clinical depression and in extreme cases, even suicide or homicide. American Scientists used a functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) in people who had recently been abandoned by their partners. They showed pictures of the former partner and the reactions were mixed: love, despair, good and bad memories, and anguish. Meanwhile, neuronal activity was observed with fMRI. and it was found the activation of brain areas with functions related to the sensation of pleasure, happiness, addiction and fear. Neural activity was increased in the insular cortex or insula and anterior cingulate cortex, associated both with the physical pain and anguish. Data collected, together with other data collected in a previous study, suggest that the brain mesolimbic pathway would be involved in romantic passion, whether love or not makes us happy. The mesolimbic pathway is one of the dopamine pathways in the brain and is associated with the modulation of behavioral responses to stimuli in front of emotional gratification and motivation, that is, which is the brain mechanism that mediates the reward and influences by Thus in the addictions.

Rejection by a lover is a powerful negative experience that can cause people to slide into depression or commit extreme acts.

Rejection by a lover is a powerful negative experience that can cause people to slide into depression or commit extreme acts. Some people have even committed suicide or homocide in response to rejection. The research presented here helps illustrate why rejection hurts so much and where the need to be accepted by a lover originates.

The authors of the study explain that the limbic reward system involved in feelings of romantic love and rejection are associated with biological survival mechanisms and imperatives, which suggest an evolutionary link between the feeling of romantic love and the naturally selected need to pass on one’s genes. This notion is reinforced by the concurrent activity of brain centers involved in addiction.

Our brains do their utmost to convince us to reproduce, even going so far as to cause extreme emotional pain and agony when we are denied the opportunity with people we have identified as good mates. Conversely, the involvement of emotional regulation centers certainly indicates that love is more than a simple craving or biological imperative; it is a complex emotion fully integrated into our consciousnesses, the nature of which fMRI machines still cannot fully illuminate.

Love. What else can cause such obsessions, cravings, mood swings, compulsions, distortions of reality, changes in personality, losses of self-control,

Love. What else can cause such obsessions, cravings, mood swings, compulsions, distortions of reality, changes in personality, losses of self-control, and risk-taking? Addiction, that’s what. Biologists, psychologists, poets, and musicians have long been at odds over whether love is a deeply spiritual emotion, or perhaps a potentially harmful biological addiction. In a research study, led by biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher, scientists hooked up recently rejected lovers to an MRI machine to monitor their brain activity, seems to indicate that both camps may be correct.

The researchers used MRI scans to study what parts of the brain were activated in the recently heartbroken. They recruited ten women and five men who were recently dumped by people with whom they were still intensely in love. Each participant filled out a survey called the Passionate Love Scale to assess the degree to which they experienced feelings of romantic love. Finally, while in the MRI machine, participants looked at a photograph of their dumper while the scientists took pictures of their brain activity.

Codependence is an emotional and behavioral defense system which was adopted by our egos in order to meet our need to survive as a child.

Codependence is doubly traumatic. We were traumatized as children – and the defenses we adapted to protect us caused us to traumatize ourselves as adults. We have experienced getting our hearts broken, our hopes and dreams shattered, again and again. We abandoned, betrayed, and set ourselves up to feel rejected over and over again.

Even those “family hero” types who achieve external “success” and financial abundance have to keep running from distraction to distraction and finding someone to blame so that they can deny the hole they feel within themselves.

Achieving some material success makes it much easier to maintain the illusion of ego control and stay in denial of one’s wounded soul. Being rich and famous can be a huge block to true emotional intimacy.

As long as we are reacting unconsciously to our childhood emotional wounds and intellectual programming, we keep repeating the patterns. We keep getting involved with unavailable people. We keep setting ourselves up to be abandoned, betrayed and rejected. We keep looking for love in all the wrong places, in all the wrong faces. Is it any wonder we have a fear of intimacy?

“Codependence is an emotional and behavioral defense system which was adopted by our egos in order to meet our need to survive as a child. Because we had no tools for reprogramming our egos and healing our emotional wounds (culturally approved grieving, training and initiation rites, healthy role models, etc.), the effect is that as an adult we keep reacting to the programming of our childhood and do not get our needs met – our emotional, mental, Spiritual, or physical needs.

Is Love A Drug, Scientists Ask | Article Directory Project

Is Love A Drug, Scientists Ask | Article Directory Project: "Sex is a Trap
Sex is booby-trapped for to make partners bond. According to the researchers – the more two people have sex together, the more likely they are to bond.
“We all know you can have sex without falling in love but if you have enough sex with the same person there’s a good chance you will hit the body’s booby-trap which is there to tip you head over heels into love,” reported Dr Marsden.
So having sex is an addiction which can’t be cured, because people love each other and are attracted to their life partners."

Women who Love too Much Discussion: 2 yrs of changing me, now I am opposite - DailyStrength

Women who Love too Much Discussion: 2 yrs of changing me, now I am opposite - DailyStrength: "I have been on DS for 2 yrs now. 2 yrs ago I was trying to break my addiction to a crooked cop, sexual predator, narcissist who had taken advantage of me. It was very hard for me to break the addiction and realize what he actually was, and that everything he had said was all lies to trick me so he could get what he wanted out of me and then had no use for me. Who knows how many others he's used his position to victimize. It was a very difficult and painful time for me, and I developed PTSD which I struggle with till this day. I managed to go no contact (even w/ him working in the same bldg as myself) after one of his abusive episodes. I avoided his attempts to suck me back in (which didn't start until a year later). I have been here this entire time, I've devoured a bunch of books on love addiction and have my own library on it now. One topic lead to another and I learned that he has NPD. I have done tons of research and worked on changing me. And I have changed...a LOT. But now I'm worried that I'm on the other end of the spectrum."

Addicted to Love | Bella Naija

Addicted to Love | Bella Naija: "So there I was minding my own business, half listening to the radio and half consumed by my own random thoughts as I drove in to work one morning. When the radio presenter on Inspiration FM, announced that one of Tiger Woods alleged mistresses, Rachel Uchitel, would be taking part in the hit US reality TV series, Celebrity Rehab. The TV series, which shows how different celebrities overcome various addictions, is one that has captivated the American audience for 3 seasons and has had among its housemates, celebrities such as Janice Dikinson, Keisha Cole’s mother and Daniel Baldwin.
I waited to hear what Rachel’s addiction was. Heroin, cocaine, marijuana, cigarettes maybe??? No! It was none of the above. In fact, although the show’s producers claim her addiction was to prescription drugs, sources from US tabloid magazines say different. According to the tabloids, her addiction is apparently to….wait for it,…. LOVE. Did I hear you hiss? Well, I doubt if your hiss could be louder than mine. Even as I type this article I find myself still hissing at the very idea of it all. Addicted to love, such nonsense! While I am not prepared to discuss her alleged relationship with the golf supremo Tiger Woods, I do find it a tad bit ridiculous that anyone could be “addicted to love”."

What Is Sex Addiction – Treating Sex Addiction | jellofart's blog

What Is Sex Addiction – Treating Sex Addiction | jellofart's blog: "Sex addiction is an illness that is experienced worldwide by men and women from different backgrounds and cultures. When a person is a sex addict, they suffer from a disease which is incurable, progressive and capable of destroying the lives of not only the sufferer but of their families as well.
Sex addiction can be managed with a recovery programme and therapy but whilst in the grips of this addiction, sufferers cannot escape their obsessive and compulsive behaviour. Often sex addiction is experienced with other addictive behaviours such as drug use and eating disorders. They are all behaviours of the same disease of addiction.
Similar to other addictions such as drug addiction and alcohol addiction, sex addiction is based on obsessive and compulsive needs. The behaviour of a sex addict can include repeated empty affairs, compulsive masturbation, frequent use of prostitutes and other sex services and in extreme cases can even progress to exhibitionism, voyeurism, child molestation and rape.
Sex addicts however are not bad people. Their condition is not a moral failing: It is a spiritual unrest.
Why is Sex Addiction So Destructive?
In some Twelve Step fellowship support groups, ‘bottom line behaviour’ is identified. Bottom line behaviour is a term used to define the specific sex addict’s behaviours which they act out on.
Most sex addicts experience ‘intrigue’ which is the mental preoccupation with sexual acts. Objectifying people, constant obsession with sexual acts, flirting and generally spending much time with the preoccupation of sex is the mental state of a sex addict. These obsessions are then followed by the compulsive acting out on sexual behaviours."